Young Women's Article: Preparing For a Good Man

 

By Ann Weaver.

 

 

Photo Credits: Ann.

Wise young women have high standards for men they would consider marrying. Their standards don’t expect perfection, but they are high enough so that they aren’t drawn to every boy that crosses their path. They realize that physical attractiveness has nothing to do with the person within, and are willing to wait however long it takes for the right man to come along. 

No matter what their specific thoughts may be, Christian young women should all have some criteria in common: they should want a Christian young man who is solid in his faith, loyal to his values, and pure in body and mind.

None of these things are too much to ask in a young man. In fact, I’d say this should be the bare minimum. But we forget another side to this equation: if a young man lives up to these standards, then he’s going to have the same standards for a young woman. 

This means we should be living up to our own standards, even before we’re ready to even begin to consider marriage seriously. We can’t expect a stalwart, loyal, pure young man to be even remotely interested in a girl who isn’t at the same level as themselves. We should live up to the expectation we expect from the young men we want to marry. 

Below, I have written  a list of things girls often say they want their future spouse to be like. Beside that, I have written down what we should do if that’s the kind of husband we’d like to have one day, and there are Scriptural references for each point made. It’s not some kind of magical wand, but it’s simply here to show us how we can live up to our own standards, so that we will marry a good man if the Lord wills us to marry.  

 

We want a man who…	Scripture for him	So we should…	Scripture for us
Protects and defends the weak.	Psalm 82: 3-4; Prov. 31:8-9.	Care and tend to the weak.	Proverbs 31:20;
Remains pure in body and mind.	1 Thessalonians 4:3-4; Matthew 5:28.	Stay pure in heart & mind, avoiding sin.	1 Peter 3:2-4; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
Cares for those who are suffering/in trouble.	Matthew 25:35-40.	Also care for those who are suffering/in trouble.	Romans 12:15.
Loves the Lord.	Deuteronomy 6:5.	Work on devotion to the Lord.	Proverbs 31:30.
Can communicate effectively.	James 1:19; Proverbs 15:1.	Work on communicating well with family & friends.	Proverbs 31:26; Ephesians 4:29.
Will always take the upright way, even when it’s hard.	Proverbs 10:9; Joshua 1:9.	Do the same, even when it seems too small or too hard.	Galatians 6:9.
Keeps their word.	Matthew 5:37.	Again, do the same.	Matthew 5:37.
Can and will provide well for their family.	1 Timothy 5:8; Proverbs 13:22.	Know how to save and scrimp, rather than wasting it on unneeded things.	Proverbs 31:27.
Studies and follow Scripture.	Psalm 1:2.	Do the same, even when life seems too busy.	Joshua 1:8; Psalm 119:105.
Continually grows in his spiritual walk.	Philippians 3:14.	Keep pursuing God and trusting in Him instead of romance.	Colossians 2:6-7; Proverbs 3:5-6.
Loves children and wants some of his own, if the Lord wills it.	Psalm 127:3-5.	Knows how to take care of children at any stage. Cultivate a joy and love of children.	Titus 2:4-5; Genesis 1:28.
Is trustworthy and honest.	Luke 16:10; Proverbs 11:13.	Be the same way. Don’t gossip about others and never lie.	Proverbs 12:22; 1 Peter 3:10.
Is tolerant towards your faults.	Colossians 3:13.	Work on your faults and learn to tolerate other’s faults so you can tolerate his.	Philippians 2:3-4; Ephesians 4:2.
Doesn’t hold grudges/forgives freely.	Matthew 6:14-15.	Be forgiving towards everyone in your life–including siblings!	Colossians 3:13; Ephesians 4:32.
Remains humble but confident.	James 4:6.	Do the same. Learn to build others up in preparation for doing the same to him.	Proverbs 27:2.
Stands strong in his beliefs and aligns with our beliefs.	1 Corinthians 16:13; Titus 2:7-8.	Fully understand your own beliefs and then how to stand firm, even when your convictions aren’t popular.	1 Peter 3:15.
Has a good sense of humor.	Proverbs 17:22.	Be willing to laugh at yourself. Cultivate your own sense of humor.	Proverbs 16-18; Proverbs 17:22.
Puts his family above work.	Ephesians 5:28-29; Colossians 3:21.	Learn to put our family first now, so we can do the same when we’re older. Be kind.	1 Timothy 5:8; Proverbs 23:22.
Has the potential for becoming a good family leader.	Ephesians 5:23; 1 Timothy 3:4-5.	Pray for submissiveness to him when the time comes. Be willing to be a good follower.	Ephesians 5:22-24.

 

This list is certainly not perfect, but it’s a start. Hopefully, it will remind us to prepare ourselves well for a good man–though we have to keep in mind that this is not our end goal. I pray the Lord will help you become a young woman worthy of the man you pray for..

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22. 

 

 

 

 

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